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Sent Out! #5

Part 5: How to Defeat the Fear of Man

Matthew 10:34-42

Harry Stoliker
February 15, 2009 EBC

Sent Out!


This morning we are looking at the other powerful force that Jesus spoke to his apostles about as He sent them on Mission. Last week we looked at the Fear of Man and now we will consider having a Supreme Love for Christ.

Thomas Vincent (1634-1678) was a Puritan non-conformist minister and author word a powerful little book called The True Christian's Love to the Unseen Christ. He was thrown out of his pulpit in 1662 under the Act of Uniformity by the Parliament in England forcing all the ministers to use the Common Book of Prayer and other Anglican rules of worship. All preachers who didn't conform to it were expelled from their churches and kept away from their congregations by being forced to stay at least 5 miles from their towns.

He opens his book with: "The life of Christianity consists very much in our love to Christ. Without love to Christ, we are as much without spiritual life as a carcass when the soul is fled from it is with out natural life. Faith without love to Christ is a dead faith, and a Christian without love to Christ is a dead Christian, dead in sins and trespasses. Without love to Christ we may have the name Christian, but we are wholly without the nature. We may have the form of godliness, but we are wholly without the power. "Give me your heart" is the language of God to all the children of men (Prov. 23:26); and "Give me your love" is the language of Christ to all His disciples."

If you are going to be effective in expanding the Kingdom of Christ in mission, you have to love Christ supremely. (Repeat this take home phrase).

Matthew 10:37 "Whoever loves father or mother more than me is not worthy of me, and whoever loves son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me."

Luke 14:26 "If anyone comes to me and does not hate his own father and mother and wife and children and brothers and sisters, yes, and even his own life, he cannot be my disciple."

Luke 14:33 "So therefore, any one of you who does not renounce all that he has cannot be my disciple."

Augustine, philosopher and theologian and church father (354-430AD) was one of the most important figures in the development of Western Christianity said it as powerfully as a human can: "Jesus Christ is not valued at all until He is valued above all." He means that ½ love is no love. You can't love anything in life as much as you love Jesus.

Jesus wants you to love Him more than anything else in your life. That is the constant and ultimate challenge of your life. It has always been God's demand and call upon His people. "What is the greatest commandment?" they asked Jesus. He replied in Mark 12:29-30 "The most important is, 'Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one. And you shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with

all your strength." Every part of you: will, mind, soul, heart, strength – every fiber of your being, every chamber of your heart, every ounce of your strength, every category of your mind. Are you there yet? Are you that much in love with Jesus? Does love for Him occupy that much of your being?

Our passage in Mt. 10 starts out with Jesus dispelling a false assumption: 10:34-36 "Do not think that I have come to bring peace to the earth. I have not come to bring peace, but a sword. For I have come to set a man against his father, and a daughter against her mother, and a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law. And a person's enemies will be those of his own household."

  1. Wasn't the Messiah going to be the Prince of Peace? Didn't the great company of angels at his birth say "and on earth peace to men…?" Didn't the messianic Psalm 72:7 say of Him: "In his days may the righteous flourish and peace abound, till the moon be no more!

    Jesus wasn't going to bring the kind of peace that people wanted, a peace that left them alone in their sin and idolatry. They wanted a domesticated Messiah who would bring a tranquility that didn't require anything from them.

  2. The Peace Jesus brought came at the expense of loving him supremely. Peace with Jesus would mean separating from unbeliever and separating from sin. It came with the price of changing priorities and loyalties to make Jesus of supreme importance.
  3. The sword Jesus brought wasn't a literal sword but the sword that would divide family loyalties. Some fathers and mothers wouldn't agree that their sons and daughters became Christ-followers. Making Christ supreme would generate hatred and enemies among even family members who refuse to also submit to Christ's supremacy. What happened in Jesus' own family that showed how his brothers felt about his total commitment to God? Open to Mark 3:21 "And when his family heard it, they went out to seize him, for they were saying, "He is out of his mind." Your family may come to think the same about you!
  4. This dividing of families into believers and non-believers creates the greatest challenge of where your ultimate loyalty will lay and who you will love more: your family or Jesus Christ.

    V.37 "Anyone who loves his father or mother more than me is not worthy of me; anyone who loves his son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me…" Luke 14:26 "If anyone comes to me and does not hate his own father and mother and wife and children and brothers and sisters, yes, and even his own life, he cannot be my disciple."

    • It doesn't say you can't love your father, mother, son or daughter. It is a comparative statement. Your love for Christ must seem like a hate for your parents in comparison! As a matter of fact, when you love Christ supremely you will love your family more purely. Supreme love for Christ purifies our love of everything else. We love all things correctly when we love Christ supremely. If we don't love Christ supremely, we love other things and other people idolatrously. Whatever we love supremely is our god!
    • To be worthy of Christ is to value him so highly that you are willing to endure whatever persecution and sacrifice that comes as a result of loving him supremely!

      To be worthy of Christ is to bring honor to His Name by showing His worthiness of being loved more than anything else in life. To be worthy of Christ is to be a trophy of His grace and purifying power. When He is your supreme love you show that He has by the power of His glory and beauty and majesty won your affection and loyalty.

In what ways do we show that we love Christ supremely? What does it look like when it is lived out rather than just verbalized?

  1. Obedience. The number one way is through obeying the Word of Christ. John 14:21 "Whoever has my commandments and keeps them, he it is who loves me. And he who loves me will be loved by my Father, and I will love him and manifest myself to him." This is how Jesus measures our love for Him. Not in the number of church services we attend or the million committees we sit on or the endless activities we are involved with. Clear, simply, concrete obedience to the Word of God as the Spirit draws it to our attention. Not ½ obedience, which is no obedience, but full obedience to direct commands of Scripture. John 14:15 "If you love me, you will keep my commandments." 1 John 2:4-6 "Whoever says "I know him" but does not keep his commandments is a liar, and the truth is not in him, 5 but whoever keeps his word, in him truly the love of God is perfected. By this we may be sure that we are in him: 6 whoever says he abides in him ought to walk in the same way in which he walked."
  2. Author Sam Storms said it this way: "Are we so much in love with Jesus, so utterly enthralled with the transcendent beauties of our Savior, so swallowed up in the adequacy of the Son of God in all things that nothing appears so sweet to us as obedience to His commands?" Wow! What did he just say? I think he said that the more beautiful we think Christ is, the more spellbound we are by His complete sufficiency, the more we are going to really want to obey Jesus!
  3. John Hannah, Distinguished Professor of Historical Theology at Dallas Theological Seminary, made a powerful statement about obedience: "It is inconceivable that a person could fall in love with the Redeemer in the biblical sense and not long to be conformed to the object of that affection." If you say you love Jesus supremely, then you must long to become like Christ in every way.
  4. Supreme love for Jesus is seen when we conquer sin in our lives and conform more to His character. Romans 12:2 "Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect." Reprogramming the way you think about the world and all that's in it will make you more like Jesus. Dying to the power of sin, lust, pride, greed, hatred, and envy is clear evidence that your love of Christ is strong and is pushing out the evil that was in you.
  5. Loving what Christ loves is clear evidence of supreme love for Jesus. 1 John 2:15-16 "Do not love the world or the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. 16 For all that is in the world— the desires of the flesh and the desires of the eyes and pride in possessions—is not from the Father but is from the world." The love of the Father will expel the love for the world from our hearts. Supreme love for Christ forces out the love of evil things of the world.
  6. C.H. Spurgeon said it well back in the 1840's: "The man who is all aglow with love to Jesus finds little need for amusement. He has no time for trifling. He is in dead earnest to save souls, and establish the truth, and enlarge the kingdom of his Lord."
  7. Do you want to test yourself to see if you love Christ supremely? Here's how : Ask yourself if you waste your time on trifling, on trivial things or eternal things- things that count for eternity? Are you addicted to watching trivial television or wasting large amounts of time on things that have nothing to do with saving souls, establishing God's truth or enlarging His Kingdom?

    V.38 "And anyone who does not take his cross and follow me is not worthy of me."

  8. Loving Christ supremely looks like someone who has taken up his cross daily. He is dying. He is dying to the sinful passions of the world. He just isn't drooling over what the world drools over. He isn't addicted to what the world is addicted to. He isn't enjoying what the world enjoys. He isn't chasing what the world is chasing. Rather he is boasting and glorying in the Cross of Jesus Christ. Galatians 6:14 "But far be it from me to boast except in the cross of our Lord Jesus Christ, by which the world has been crucified to me, and I to the world."

    We should never 'sanitize' the language of taking up our cross. This wasn't pretty language then, it wasn't a religious cliché either. It was frightening language. They were all too familiar with the horror of crucifixion. It was a vivid and scary means of death. Jesus is saying that if you love me supremely, you are willing to face the prospect and possibility of a savage death. It was savage and shameful.

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